Frankie Update

November 4, 2013

in Boys will be Boys, Family

motoA few of you have asked about Frankie. He’s doing great. We don’t see him with any regularity, just like in the past, we see him when he wants to be seen. Some weeks that could be multiple times and others he’s like a ghost. We don’t push or ask to see him because we know that asking is futile. Just like when he lived here, asking or making him call us is only going to cause heartache and there isn’t any sense in making us all crazy expecting something that isn’t going to happen.

He shows up when he wants to show up, he calls when he wants to call, he text when he wants to text.

He is 100% financially responsible for himself so there isn’t anything we can hold over his head to get him to have regular contact with us. Unlike when he lived here, we don’t let it ruin our plans. If he says he is going to be here at noon on Tuesday but shows up at 4pm on Thursday, our lives still stay the course. We don’t wait, panic or yell and scream. It is what it is and we have come to terms with that. For Andrew it’s a different story. He still get frustrated and feels let down and then by the time Frankie does show up, he is pissed at him. I think he is slowly coming to terms with the fact that Frankie isn’t going to “be there” for him unless Frankie wants to be.

Frankie has a great job that Cheryl hooked up for him, he works for the Carl’s Jr. Special Events Department. They drive all over Southern California and serve up Carl’s Jr. fare and local parks, concerts, games and private parties. His schedule varies and  he normally ends up working a shit ton of hours per week. He lives close to his job, renting a room from a lady who owns a house that is right next to Mt. Baldy and Chaffey College (should he ever want to take a few classes, the option is literally right next door!) He bought himself and motorcycle and stays busy by watching TV and movies on Netflix and taking the occasional trail run.

So, we take what we can get when we get it. He’s happy. We are happy. We enjoy our time with him much more than we did when he lived here and fought us tooth and nail over for everything. And, believe it or not, we hear from him more than we ever did when he lived upstairs. He is making a place for himself in this world and succeeding at it. At the end of the day that is all a parent can hope for from their child.

1 Karen November 4, 2013 at 6:30 pm

There’s hope! I’m glad he’s doing well.

2 Sandi November 4, 2013 at 7:30 pm

Karen – There is hope! And he really is doing awesome!

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