Happy Father’s Day Dad.

June 16, 2014

in Dad

golfing_with_sandiMy Dad died seven years ago.

7 year’s…

It’s so strange to say that because it seems just like yesterday. I think it’s because Casey Kasem has been making headlines for the past few months and he had the same illness my Dad had so those memories are front and center.

(More info on Lewy Body Disease Dementia)

Anyway.

My Dad was funny, really funny. He had a great sense of humor and passed down his love for a good laugh to me. He also loved a cold beer, golf, a strong cigar and the Padres (but not necessarily in that order.) I could go on and on, but the bottom line is, he was a good man.

72505_1571919412633_7095939_n(And I just wrote this long and rambling story about how my sister has unjustly made my Dad out to be a bad guy and how sick that makes me because 1) none of it is true and 2) how unfair to beat a mans good name into the ground after he has died and can’t defend himself. But then I erased it because anyone who knew my dad knows that the stories are bullshit and that’s all that really matters.)

I miss my Dad. Not just because he is gone, but because of the way he left. I kind of feel robbed that we lost him so very slowly over so many years. Each day it was like a little part of him physically and mentally slipped away. From the time he was diagnosed until he died was almost six years. One day he could say my name and then next minute he couldn’t. It was that fast.

People say that the Alzheimer’s part of Lewy Body Disease robbed him of knowing who we were. I disagree. In the end he was surrounded by female nurses and therapists and dieticians but he always, always, lit up when I walked in the room. Somewhere deep in the traces of his mind he had ingrained memories of those he loved deeply. Years before, the disease had taken his ability to talk, but the day I told him that his sister had passed away, he cried. He knew. He remembered. He knew who we were up until the very end.

I will always find some solace in that.

Happy Father’s Day Dad.

1 Laurel June 16, 2014 at 3:38 pm

Loving tribute!

2 Sandi June 17, 2014 at 12:08 pm

Lola- Thank you!

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