Happy Father’s Day

June 16, 2013

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22336_1349834665535_7496378_nFather’s Day is kind of a strange day for me. My dad died in 2007 and since I am in a same sex marriage, I don’t have a significant other that I re-pay for the homemade cards and soggy cereal in bed that I got for Mother’s Day. Up until a few years ago, we used to split the holiday, one of us would take Mother’s Day and the other Father’s Day and then the next year we would switch, but that just got too cumbersome. Now we just do a simple Mother’s Day celebration and do whatever we want on Father’s Day.

So, it’s kind of awkward.

Not socially uncomfortably awkward like getting Happy Birthday sung to you at Farrell’s.  It’s more like forgetting someone’s birthday. And then trying to pretend you didn’t.

“Oh man! I totally, uh, forgot your card…..”

With all the stigma over the negative aspects of Social Media sites like Facebook and Instagram, there are things about them that provide awesome opportunities.

They have the ability to keep a memory alive.

The ability to share a loved one with people who maybe didn’t get a chance to meet them when they walked this world.

It offers an opportunity to remind yourself what great people they were.

I love that. So every year, Dad here or not, I am able to share my thoughts and love for the man that he was.

Happy Father’s Day Dad. It’s been six years, one month and 19 days since you have been gone and I still miss you.


1 Robin (@hismuse) June 18, 2013 at 9:53 am

My father’s day gift was not killing him on the 15 hour drive home from Chicago to Boston when our flights were cancelled. With my husband it’s something very light in our house. He has a daughter that isn’t really a part of our lives but we get to be a part of hers, so he celebrates with her and sometimes I give him cards from the cats because he is the only daddy they know.

2 Sandi June 18, 2013 at 2:20 pm

Robin- I think with all the different types of families in this day and age, holidays are tweaked to something that works best for that family unit. I don’t think that’s a bad thing. It shows the diversity we have in this world. Happy (belated) Father’s Day to Erik!

3 Robin June 18, 2013 at 3:16 pm

I agree, thanks.

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