June 26, 2015

in Gay & Lesbian

2013-03-26 08.37.48America for the win!

The #SCOTUS finally determined that same sex marriage is legal across our entire great nation.

As it should be.

Or should I say, as it should have been all along.

At the end of the day, we, as Americans, have bigger issues to focus on than arguing against love. Let’s talk about poverty, homelessness, mental health, sex trafficking and our educational deficiencies. Those things are big deals. Fighting against love just seems so petty and irrelevant in comparison. To me getting a marriage license doesn’t really rank against all those other social injustices that are happening in our world. In fact, getting a marriage license is almost the most unceremonious thing you can do. You make an appointment with the County Recorder, you stand in line and wait for your number to be called. It is on par with renewing your Driver’s License at the DMV. Unromantic. Stressful. Rage Inducing. I firmly believe that if couples willingly withstand the stress of getting their marriage license they deserve the right of marriage. Everyone who gets married in the United States goes through this ritual. It’s mandatory. It is how your marriage is recorded and recognized in your County and State. That is the right I was fighting for. THAT right. I wasn’t fighting for your church to recognize my marriage, or to get married in your church. I just wanted to stand in that horrific line at the County Recorders office and raise my right hand and swear that everything I listed on my marriage license is true.

The “ceremony” part of the marriage is just that, a ceremony. It in itself doesn’t make you married. You can do the ceremony part anywhere, not just in a church. That’s where I believe people have the right to perform, or not perform, a marriage ceremony. Sure it would be great if this ruling was all inclusive, but it’s not, and maybe it shouldn’t be. That’s where the RIGHT to PERFORM a gay marriage comes in. I can’t speak for all gay people but if your church doesn’t want to perform my marriage, then I am pretty sure I don’t want to get married there anyway.

Cheryl and I had a civil ceremony in Key West, Florida when Domestic Partnership was approved and we got married when California made it legal. I told her this morning that since we have gotten married at every legal level that we need to celebrate this historic announcement with another wedding Three for Three!

Today is a good day. It’s historic and it’s amazing and it’s about damn time.


“No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were,” Kennedy wrote. “As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves, their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right. The judgement of the Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit is reversed. It is so ordered.”


1 Laurel June 26, 2015 at 12:45 pm

Whoop!!! Can’t wait to celebrate!

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