It’s All Funny (unless you are being mean) – Joan Rivers

October 4, 2014

in Self Awareness

IMG_4112I have been gone too long.


Not a good way to keep social media engagement numbers up. Thanks to those who continually hang around, your loyalty is appreciated!

I honestly can’t explain away my absence. I’ve just been buy with daily stuff and somewhat stuck in a funk. I’m normally a pretty happy person but sometimes life catches up to you. Not a big deal, just like everyone else you just work through it. I need to do a better job at acknowledging the negativity in my life or at the very least trying to rise above and ignore it. Life is short and it’s counter productive to get caught up in the webs insecurities.

(and I think I just unknowingly quoted and Indigo Girls song.)

There is this kid at school that, for lack of a better word, is a turd. A complete and utter turd. Simply put, he is a bully. Yesterday a boy wrote a story about why he loves My Little Pony and the turd kid took it from him and tried to read it aloud at the lunch tables to embarrass the other kid.

I just about lost my shit.

There are a few things at my job that I would gladly get fired for and standing up to a kid that is being a bully to the other students is number one on that list. I just don’t have it in me to let it slide.

So I give the story back to the Little Pony kid and tell him how wonderful his story is and how great it is that he has so much passion for his subject and not to ever let anyone take that passion away from him. Then I made the other kids applauded his terrific story and by the end of it everyone was patting him on the back and the Little Pony kid tears and humiliation was replaced with smiles and the crisis was averted.

Then I took the turd kid aside and raked him over the coals.

I can’t for the life of me figure out why people feel the need to be mean and make someone feel small for something that doesn’t really have anything to do with them. If you don’t like My Little Pony, then why do you care that the kid sitting next to you does? Let it be or ignore it. The turd kid said that he thought My Little Pony was stupid and he felt that the rest of the kids at the lunch table deserved to hear his take on the subject. I disagreed. What the kids at the table needed to hear was that his friends supported his love on My Little Pony regardless of whether they thought it was stupid or a girl thing. All he needed to do was say “cool story Bro” and be done with it instead of trying to humiliate him for not sharing his views.

I don’t know about you, but I think the world would be a much better place if there was less judgment and more “that’s cool Bro” in our lives.

Just a thought.

PS: And I realize it’s hypocritical that I post this particular post with a Joan Rivers quote. Joan made a living at making fun of other people. But the real Joan, not the role she played for her celebrity Joan, was a kind, compassionate and was very gracious to those close to her. I think Joan would have understood that being purposely mean or being a bully isn’t cool at all.

1 Tara October 4, 2014 at 12:07 pm

Hey, Sandi. Life gets in the way. If you need to vent, you know where I am.

And the kid can think it’s stupid — that’s his (stupid) opinion (see what I did there). But yeah, why do people feel the need to shame others who are different? I’m glad you stood up for the Little Pony boy. :-)

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