Life is Short. Cherish. Enjoy. Live.

October 13, 2014

in Friendship, Self Awareness

97feb7684a5f55bd75a87390fb32ab1cSuddenly my life is filled with moments that redefine how you view your existence. It’s been a strange string of coincidences this past few weeks that have been a living reminder that life is short and don’t take it for granted. I’ve always been a YOLO kind of person. I think my inner hardware always looks for the best in a situation. I mean, why not? I can’t fathom why people spend time looking backwards or finding the negative in something. To me, its a huge waste of life’s precious moments. I’m not saying I don’t get down and relive those shitty times once in a awhile, that only seems human. What I mean is that I don’t let those crappy things take me down with them. Live through it and celebrate its passing.

Don’t let it own you.

Remember that saying “no one likes a whiner?’ You know who invented that? The people who have to listen to other people whine. It’s exhausting really. Life is summed up by seconds, minutes, days, months and years. They go by so fast. Don’t waste them on something that doesn’t deserve a second chance.

There are a few exceptions to my rule. 1) the loss of a child. I don’t know how anyone gets past that and I don’t think you should. That has got to be the kind of pain that molds your life forever. 2) suddenly finding out you are dying. No one should bat an eye if you decide to stay in your PJ’s all day and cry “why me” when a Doctor tells you that you only have a short time left to live. In my book, you get a pass for both those things, but everyone else can suck it up.

My sister has spent a huge amount of her life playing the pity card. Moments that we have both had to endure have swept us in completely different directions. I am always at a loss for words when those moments have become her excuse for poor choices and bad behavior. There is always another way.  Those moments can be just that, a sad, shitty, horrible moment or they can become your existence. The truth is EVERYONE has at some point faced hard times of illness, tragic loss, or what seems to be insurmountable obstacles. We get back up. We dust ourselves off. We move on. I hope and pray at some point my sister finds it in her to do just that. Life is short. Everyday you spend making excuses for your life becomes another day that you are not living it to the fullest.

In contrast, today I lost a friend to cancer. She had no choice in this matter. The decision was out of her hands. She was one of my exceptions to the rule. She could have curled up in a ball and pulled the covers over her head, but she didn’t. She fought, or at least, tried to fight. she left a lot sooner than she or anyone thought she would. It’s sad and shocking, but on her way out she made sure a few wonderful things happen. She opened her arms to her family, she introduced me to a new wonderful friend, she showed me that even on your sickest and weakest moment you can still expect the best from people and demand they treat you right. If there is one thing I will take away from her life, it’s that. You don’t always have to be nice, you don’t always have to bow down to someone else’s behavior. You deserve to be treated with love and respect and if that’s lacking, either speak up or change your path. I’ll always be grateful for that lesson.

So live it, appreciate it and make the most of it. Life only happens once.

In loving memory of Cheryl Ann Stauffer. I will miss you my friend. Godspeed.

1 Shelley October 13, 2014 at 8:11 pm

Sandi, I so admire your strength and positive attitude. You inspire me. Glad to call you my friend.

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