Y’all LOVE the Gays!

June 20, 2013

in Gay & Lesbian, Sex

418611_3879472140009_996570684_nDon’t deny it!

You love us! You know you do!

If you have been gay as long as I have, it’s super duper obvious that times are a’changin’ when it comes to the love people have for us gays. Back in the day there was a lot of fear. A lot of ignorance and a lot of hate, animosity and discrimination. I’m not going to be in denial and say that none of that exists anymore, it does. Daily. But it’s evident that things are swinging more into the range of global acceptance.

Maybe people still don’t “get it” and  think you can be “fixed,” but for the most part I think it just doesn’t bother people the way it used to. Those that hate it are backing off a little bit and realizing that it doesn’t really affect them, so they are letting it go.

It’s a nice change of pace.

Being Gay or Lesbian isn’t the curse it used to be. It’s becoming more mainstream. ABC Family has a new TV show called The Fosters about two lesbian parents raising a house full of kids. It’s a great show and one my family can very much relate to.

“It’s not where you come from, it’s where you belong. Nothing I would trade, I wouldn’t have it any other way. You’re surrounded by love and you’re wanted. So never feel alone, you are home with me. Right where you belong.”

Pro athlete’s are coming out (Thank you Jason Collins and Robbie Rogers.) Rap music icons like Frank Ocean and Macklemore & Ryan Lewis are breaking down genre barriers with personal stories and lyrics.

“And I can’t change, even if I tried, even if I wanted too…”

Being gay is being accepted at an astounding pace. It’s awesome, and flattering.

And a relief.

I had a conversation with a lady at work last week. When I first started working and my gayness started trickling out, she warned me not to come out to certain people because they wouldn’t like me for religious reasons. For the record, that’s not how I roll. If someone isn’t going to like me because I am gay, they can fuck off. If you don’t want to like me because you got to know me and don’t care for me, that’s fine. I get that. There are tons of people I don’t like because I think they are douche bags, and I’m sure there are more than a few people who say the same about me. But don’t make a snap judgment that you hate me because I don’t fall into your perception of what religion is.

So I made it my mission to come out to them. One, because I am a douchebag, but mostly I just wanted to get it over with. Like ripping off a band aide. If I was going to work there every day and they were going to work there everyday, we might as well get this little thing out in the open, right?

One just turned around and walked away and has not said one word to me since then. I personally think she jealous because I rock a hat much better than she does. I can’t help it that I’m cute. She can’t blame anyone but God for that!

The other one turned out to be exceptionally cool about it once she actually accepted it. Our conversation went much like this;

“Oh! I get it! Your wife! Like she’s your best friend and you call her your wife.”

“No, I mean wife, like she’s my wife. Like we are married.”

“Oh! I get it! Like she’s your friend and you say you are married because you have been friends for so long.”

“No, I mean like I am married to my wife.”

“Oh! I get it! She’s like your sister and you call her your wife.”

“No, I mean I call her my wife because she is my wife and I am married to her.”

“Oh! That’s so cute! I had a friend in third grade and we pretended to be married.”

Uh, yeah, that’s not quite right either, but she did eventually get it and accepts it at least enough to speak to me…unlike hat lady…

With all this new found acceptance, it’s an exciting time to be gay. The Supreme Court is expected to rule on both Prop 8 and DOMA in the next week or so, we have a hit song on the radio and our TV show is doing a bang up job on the Neilson Ratings scale. With all the bad stuff that has been in the media, it’s nice to have something positive to talk and be proud about.

Go Gays!

1 Shelley June 20, 2013 at 6:55 pm

U go girl! I love your out-ness!

2 Sandi June 20, 2013 at 10:57 pm

Thanks Shelley! You know me, gay all the way!

3 Debbie June 20, 2013 at 10:40 pm

Well said! Gotta love me some Gays!

4 Sandi June 20, 2013 at 10:57 pm

Thanks Debbie! We all gotta stick together!

5 Bonnie June 21, 2013 at 7:31 am

The world will be a much better place when we no longer have a need to label ourselves. I personally don’t give a rats ass if someone is gay, straight, transsexual, or whatever. If I’m going to like you, it’s because you’re a decent person and I connect with you on some level, or we have similar interests. My dearly departed mother was a principal of a school for over thirty years and two of her closest friends were lesbians, we’re talking almost 40 years ago when they first became friends. Their collective sexuality never defined their relationship, and frankly I don’t think any of them thought anything of it. Mom’s friends were amazing teachers and wonderful caring women, and that’s all that was important to her. Solely based on reading your blog, Sandi.. I think you’re an awesome gal. By the way… my Mom was one very cool woman :)

6 Robin (@hismuse) June 26, 2013 at 9:43 am

I’m so happy about the direction we’re going in, gives me some hope about the future. My dad, who I swear used to be really really liberal but maybe I just assumed he was, has suddenly gotten all weird about stuff. But I think people like him are most of what is holding this country back and the newer generations who are more open-minded are going to keep things going in a positive direction. Now if we could just refer to it as marriage instead of “gay marriage.”

7 Sandi June 26, 2013 at 10:36 am

Robin- It’s very true about the next generation. My kids just really don’t find being gay an issue. Even this morning I came running downstairs to tell them about the SCOTUS ruling and my youngest was like “oh, cool.” It just doesn’t bother them because it’s normal for them and that’s a good thing! Yes to “gay” marriage, like that quote about going to lunch, not gay lunch or to get your car washed, not gay car washed!

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